I've been asked a thousand times by my readers about the "no contact" rule as a technique to get their loved one back.
If you just broke up with your partner, you tend to be clingy, hurt, and desperate. There are times when you want to text your loved one all the time or call them for clarity or ask for another chance. Because the vibrational frequencies of desperation and pain are very low, your loved one will naturally repel you and push you farther away.
It is impossible to manifest your loved one back if you have low vibrations. Remember the Scale of Consciousness? You need to be at the neutral scale AT LEAST to affect or influence your loved one. So, your primary goal is to neutralize your vibration or feelings towards them and focus on giving love.
To achieve this, I recommend that you take a step back and shift your focus from your loved one to yourself. I also suggest that you look at the situation from a third-person's perspective (or become the observer of the situation) so you can be objective about this process. When you do this, you become detached from the situation. This is the fastest way to neutralize your vibrations or feelings towards your loved one.
To keep being detached from the situation, I suggest that you don't exert any physical energy to interact with your loved one in Physical Reality.
Instead, focus on yourself and learn how the universe works so that you can better understand your TRUE powers and innate Conscious Creation abilities. Use the "no contact" period to fully equip yourself with the knowledge of Conscious Creation techniques and how you can confidently design your life with your loved one and improve the other parts of your life.
Others use the "no contact" period as a mind game to let their partner miss them. Yes, they get this desired result because their partner ends up missing them; but because desire is at a low vibration, it doesn't align with their ultimate goal of reuniting with their partner in a loving relationship.
Use the "no contact" period to improve your vibrations. Make sure to have the right reasons to get your loved one back. It may be difficult at first, but it gets better and better every day.
COMMUNICATE THROUGH THE MENTAL PLANE
If you miss your loved one, communicate with them through mental forms and vibrations. See them in your mind's eye. Talk to them as if they were in front of you. Imagine as though you live together. Imagine their reactions. Imagine their response. Your thought forms about them can reach them in real time.
Train yourself to manipulate the energy in the Mental Plane. Communicating through the Mental and Spiritual Planes are way more effective and more potent than any texts, words, and actions in the Physical Plane. You have total control over these two planes than when you ask to see you. In the non-physical planes, you can impose your thoughts on your loved one's subconscious and also protect your vibrations in the process.
Also, use the "no contact" period to reset everything in your relationship. Time heals everything. The healing may not be immediate, but you can use this period to send your partner heart energy and the vibration of healing to relieve them of any negative feelings toward you.
Use this time also to master sending heart energy not just to your loved one but to yourself as well as to everyone. The more frequently you send love, the better you can manifest your desired reality.
The "no contact" period should last for 40 days or longer. In the past, I did "no contact" for 6 months until I became an entirely new person with high vibrational frequencies and with a better outlook on life. You need to be a brand new person -- someone who is happier, more content, more complete, and more vibrant. You need to be in a higher frequency than your loved one so that they become attracted to your vibe. You can only do this if you focus on loving yourself during the "no contact" period.
If you ask me if I am strict about the "no contact" rule, the answer is NO. The main purpose of "no contact" is to focus on you, in improving your vibrational frequency, and in honing your Conscious Creation ability.
Although I suggest that you do not reach out to your loved one at this time, you can do so, if reaching out to them makes you happy and if you can manage your emotions.
If you DO want to reach out to them, make sure that the one reaching out is your Real Self and not your Ego. You may want to go back to our discussion of the Real Self and the Ego earlier in this course.
Remember that whenever you do something in the Physical Plane, your loved one will have the tendency to resist or push you away. They may outright reject you as well. This is expected in the Physical Plane, especially when your vibe is not in alignment with your desire. When this happens, just ignore whatever you don't like to experience and focus on events that you prefer.